It's the most wonderful time of the year! Andy Williams sings it with such conviction that we almost forget that for many of us, Christmas is anything but the most wonderful time of the year.
December was traditionally the month in which I saw the most sadness in my psychologist practice. The month in which old hurts surfaced, heartbreak bubbled up again, empty chairs at the table felt extra painful or loneliness weighed even more heavily. Not everyone is overflowing with festive cheer during the Christmas period. On the contrary. Many would prefer to disappear from the world for a while, only to emerge carefully again when the revelry has finally subsided.
Does Christmas mean enjoying yourself to the fullest for you? Good for you. It is not my intention at all to detract from the Christmas atmosphere ❤️.
What I do hope is that as a society we pay a little more attention to those who are having extra difficulties during this period. Because believe me, it makes such a difference! It is one of the life lessons that I took with me from my years as a psychologist and that I try to be extra attentive to today.
and you are someone who is battling an illness, just lost love, had to say goodbye to a loved one (recently or years ago) or is 'just' not feeling well? Then you can be assured that this period does not exactly make things easier. My tip? Show up!
My tip? Show up!
- Save your glitter cards with 'Merry Christmas' for people who are really in the Christmas spirit. Despite all good intentions, someone who is struggling usually doesn't want it. Surprise them instead with a simple card. One with a beautiful quote or a text straight from the heart. Feeling that someone is thinking of you is always nice.
- Are you not much of a writer? Don't worry! Even a WhatsApp or text message makes a big difference. Remember that there are no right words. “I'm thinking of you” says it all.
My tip? Show up!
- Save your glitter cards with 'Merry Christmas' for people who are really in the Christmas spirit. Despite all good intentions, someone who is struggling usually doesn't want it. Surprise them instead with a simple card. One with a beautiful quote or a text straight from the heart. Feeling that someone is thinking of you is always nice.
- Are you not much of a writer? Don't worry! Even a WhatsApp or text message makes a big difference. Remember that there are no right words. “I'm thinking of you” says it all.
- Give a comfort gift. A flower, a mini moment of pampering, a beautiful scented candle... A small gift with a great meaning.
- In digital times, calling seems so 1990, but especially during a quiet period it can be so nice to hear a familiar voice. So pick up that phone! Let's talk for a bit.
Are you having extra difficulties during this period? Then I secretly hope that someone close to you reads this blog and gets inspiration from it. And know that I am always happy to exchange ideas with you, if you want to talk. Feel free to send me a WhatsApp on +32 470 21 99 87. I'm here for you!
All the best,
